She removes her wig, her eyelashes, her makeup, never breaking eye contact with the reflection of her natural self. It’s an intimate, powerful moment television doesn’t often show: A black woman removing all the elements white supremacy tells her she has to wear to be beautiful, successful, powerful. And let’s not forget that that wasn’t just Annalise taking it off: It was Davis, too—Davis, who remains brave in a world where a New York Times critic can get away with calling her ‘less classically beautiful.’x

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Anonymous asked:

Hi! I was wondering if you could help me out? So about 2 wks ago I met this wonderful boy whom I just fell for instantly. The moment I saw him was a very altering feeling which is different bc I have a horrible history w men. We hit it off right away. But..he started to get a bit sexual the 2nd time we met up and while he was respectful towards what I wanted (i.e no sex) I kept wondering if this was normal? Im super new to relationships so I dont know what to think :/ Your input is appreciated!

I would be cautious. Personally I would text the person you are seeing and just let them know you limits and current comfort level. I would also mention that you’re interested in taking it slow. If he’s ok with that and reacts in a level headed respectful manner and changes his behavior so that you are more comfortable then you know he’s ready to deal with what you’re ready (and not ready to give). If he reacts in an entitled, angry manner or refuses to change his expectations based on your needs you know to ditch him. Now, given that I’ve only dated 1 person, I am mostly basing what I’m saying based off my own experience.

1st date, awkward hug, no kiss
2nd date, awkward hug, awkward hand holding and personal space sharing
At that point I felt uncomfortable, I am really particular of who I share personal space with (even if you are hot and I am attracted to you, that’s my limit).

Right after the date through text I told him how I felt and to slow down.
He respected how I felt and made sure to give me more space. Over a month I grew more comfortable and the physical contact progressed however I was still a little suprised at how soon he would have progressed unless I had told him to put on the breaks. I figured, he either wants my body or wants me really badly (as in mind and body). But it is normal for some people to progress quicker into sex than others, it’s healthy and there is nothing wrong about that. However wanting to take it slow and take your time getting to know each other before sex is healthy, as is never having a sexual relationship. Communication is your best friend along with some time. Now two weeks from knowing someone is a bit soon for me, so you may want to clarify if he wants a hook up or a relationship. This should let you know right away whether to ask him to wait or to just move on. I cannot emphasize this enough though, follow your gut and if it makes it easier explain how you feel in a text so there is less tension. I really hope it works out, sorry for the late response!